At a friend’s house warming party we were chatting over some appetizers about what’s new in our lives. A working mom friend shared that she recently switched her shifts and specialty in order to be home more. She explained that if she had kept with her other specialty she would have missed bedtime for her little girls half the week and she’d need to work every other holiday. For her, that was a sacrifice that she wasn’t willing to make. She wanted to be home to tuck her daughters in and didn’t want to miss a holiday with them.
“I’m away from them so much of the week, I just didn’t want to miss putting them to bed at the end of the day.”
On the other side of the coin a stay-at-home mom friend chimed in…
“I feel terrible, I LOVE it when I can miss bedtime!”
She’s flying solo all day with three kids at home and felt terrible about wanting some time for herself.
Guilt is a real thing on both sides – for stay-at-home moms and working moms alike. Sometimes the things that trigger our feelings of guilt are different, but we both experience it nonetheless. And it can be a hard thing to shake off! Even though at the end of the day we know that we’re doing everything to give the most we can of our best selves to our kids.
The struggle is real.