As a parent ready to embark on leave in the all too near future, I’m attracted like a moth to a flame to Netflix’s announcement on their parental leave policy. If you’ve not heard about this yet, it’s worth a quick read. Not only are they offering full salaries and benefits but allowing flexibility for parents to return part time or come back full time for a few months and leave again. If that was not enough, and this is practically unheard of these days, they’re offering this to both men and women! I’m dying.
While I’m grateful for FMLA which ensures me a position and also that at my company offers short-term disability coverage which ensures some financial assistance, I long for more. In honesty we lose out on a nice chunk of income even at the standard 6 or 8 week leave period not to mention extending to a full 12 weeks. Keep in mind I’m speaking for myself, a woman in the workplace that is offered leave, my husband doesn’t even have the luxury of parental leave.
One of the biggest considerations when becoming a new parent is weighing the time you would like to/need to take off, prior to knowing what your needs will really be, with the financial implications. It is almost always a bummer of a conversation.
What Netflix is offering is beyond amazing, something that is likely not to be rivaled let alone matched by many others. Like I needed another reason to keep my Netflix subscription!
P.S. If you’re a new parent and handling middle of the night feedings, I highly recommend investing in a Netflix subscription. I’ve written about my Netflix addiction before – it’s the real deal, I’m hooked. My iPhone equipped with the Netflix app saved me – it kept me awake, engaged and made it easier to get up… AGAIN… in the middle of the night with my newborn. In fact, this go ‘round I’ve saved Orange is the New Black and Wet Hot American Summer – First Day of Camp specifically for this reason!
I can literally not remember what this looks like. A perfectly snoozing little babe. Because Baby Dan V is no longer one. We had the typical holiday schedule buster, but now he’s teething, and getting a cold, and NOT SLEEPING.
For working parents not sleeping feels like not an option but unfortunately we’re not the ones calling the shots. Add the fact that my husband, Dan IV, does not do well when he
can’t is not allowed to sleep. And it just so happens that Baby V is OBSESSED with his Dad right now. Like ‘shakes his head ‘no’ when I try to get him from his crib through tears in the middle of the night’ obsessed. Dad is the hero and Mom is the zero which, to be honest, aside from dealing with two very cranky Dan’s is kind of fantastic.
So V is sleepless thus we are all sleepless. At first we tried pulling him into bed with us, something we know is a no-no because it’s such a bad habit to start but when you’re exhausted you kind of stop giving a shit. That, however, doesn’t work well for us because V is a bear to sleep with. Thus little dude is zonked and we’re wide awake, no bueno.
Now we’ve started talking to him through the monitor. It was kind of a Hail Mary out of desperation at 5:30AM but for some reason it worked. Even though V was standing and crying once I spoke to him he lied down and went to sleep. A super odd but welcomed new development. Waking is not awesome, but this process is much less involved than the alternative. IV almost refuses to acknowledge it because he’s superstitious that if we talk about it, it won’t work anymore.
At this point we’re afraid that Baby V will never sleep through the night again. Afraid that we had a good run but now it’s over… FOREVER. We’re hoping this spiraling decent into eternal sleeplessness will end, but for now we’re going to have to buck-up and rely on a little extra caffeine to keep us running.
I have a lingering Netflix addiction from when Dan V was little-little. It all started when he was first born. I found, like probably any normal human staring down unpredictable sleepless nights, that getting up in the middle of the night to breastfeed nearly blind with exhaustion was something that I dreaded. Something I dreaded, that is, until I downloaded the Netflix app on my iPhone. It literally made a world of difference. It made getting up, and staying up, so much easier. As I fed him I was able to watch Orange is the New Black (OITNB), for instance, which not only kept me awake but entertained. I actually found myself looking forward to the next time I’d be able to watch and, trust me, there was always a next time.
Now that V’s over getting up during the night (most nights anyway) I find myself without that extra time to binge watch. Not that I’m complaining! I LOVE actually sleeping enough to be a productive member of the human race let alone wife, mother and worker-bee. I’ve also cruised through everything semi-meaningful to me and am now left with choices I’m less than enthusiastic about yet I hesitate to lose it.
Excuses include but are not limited to… My husband (Dan IV) and I still need to finish watching House of Cards (the only reason I’m not done with it yet is we watch it together and I’ve honored that… so far). Who really wants to cancel and then resubscribe? A new season of OITNB is coming out… eventually. I haven’t watched, like, EVERYTHING yet.
Anyone else share my quandary?